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How u deal people initially.......... - Kasim - 09-21-2010
hi alls
topic is about how u deal with new people in ur initial meetings?
am not talking about those u meet regarding ur professional requirements
am asking about those u meet in ur personal capacity and obviously they meet u in their personal capacities too means no financial interests b/w the two persons as well as both persons having same level in shorts no upper hand cause of resorces, position in society etc
(u may take example liek this u meet a friend of ur friend / neighbour / relative etc or person may b completely stranger one u gave lift while going some where or what ever )
some people show their all cards in few of first meetings (means they tell u directly or indirectly what they are, how they can act/react in certain cases and blah blah)
they beleive
<b>First impression is last impression</b>
some people dont show their all cards at once they show their features on need basis only
and some people dont show their cards at all except when its badly required for them to do and at then they do surprise other person(s) which may be in positive as well as negative aspect.
they believe
<b>All is well if end is well so keep our features secret till end so that we may have a good end even if other one trys to create vice versa for us</b>
<b>so whats ur way of dealing people in intial meetings <i>and more importantly y</i></b>?
u may ellaborate topic in ur own desired directions too
like u may say i do this and that when i am to meet some one
completely stranger /
at my new job /
raletive's/friend's/neighbour's friend
etc
Sarfraz i am seriously looking for ur reply as i beleive u try to represent urself as akhroot while u meet new people in ur and their personal capacities and in this way u judge them and let them misjudge u and u do feel pleasre from doing all this
Yasir though i have idea about ur way of dealing but it will be better if u ellaborate it urself
Anamz whats about u? u may give them serious looks in start then may become bit frank if they deserve and then may again become serious and staright forward if u dont feel comfertable with them
m i right so?
Ciapk apparently it looks that u continue same approach towards people from start to end friendly/mature way of dealing etc
but i dont know y (lagta hay kabhi app per bhi time lagana paray ga lol)i think so things are not as simple as u represent about urself
hope to see replies in ralevent direction from all including those mentioned above in addition of sepecificly asked question from them
Regards
- ciapk - 09-21-2010
Kasim
You are welcome if u wanna start a chapter in your book on CIAPK -)
Your perception is correct about me, normally, start is with care, use some face reading skills, in order understand and judge the mental approach and way of dealing of counterpart and after when I conclude my judgement on his/her behavior then i deal accordingly.
Baqi, as you think that things are not so simple, hmmmmmmm may be it is not correct, i think things are very simple and clear about me except for a few facts that i deliberately kept ambiguous about myself and i some posts i have pointed out via hints that some information may not be so correct, but such info may not affect my actual behavior, thought process and way of dealing with people.
- Anamz1 - 09-21-2010
Hahahahaha Kasim here I think u cannot predict about me, it can be right for 20% in sme cases.
To me you seems this sort of category
"and some people dont show their cards at all except when its badly required for them to do and at then they do surprise other person(s) which may be in positive as well as negative aspect.
they believe
All is well if end is well so keep our features secret till end so that we may have a good end even if other one trys to create vice versa for us"
And even some time they are not satisfied from their own view (or confuse a bit)so leave other people accordingly as they don't know want to adopt the right thing or dont want to confese (or stuff), and feel them selves rigt in their manner always.
eeeeeeeeeeeee, it just what seems me from your communication on forum, can be wrong but no offense if u not agree as can be 100% wrong. )
- yasir_live - 09-21-2010
Well Kasim.
Main kyun k reserve or Serious hun by nature iss liay frank nahi ho pata. Bohat Tameez Aur Ikhlaak say milta hun lakin Lallo-Pachu nahi karta. Personal nahi hota bilkul bhi. Aur Kafi Achay Andaaz main milta hun 2 b Honest.
Behavior note karta hun, Jawab dena ka tareeka note karta hun, Jahil or Moo-phat logon say nahi milta kyun k un k jawaab or zehniat Achi nahi lagti.
Baki jo main nay khud k liay note kia hay Woh yeh hay k pehli pehli mulakaton main Log Achi samajhtay hain bohat But baad main un ki thinking meray liay change honay lagti hay ) Pata nahi kyun.
Will contribute later, Abhi tu main nay Tumhari thread poori parhi bhi nahi Lengthy honay ki waja say. Pata nahi kya kya poocha hay tumnay )
Regards.
- Kasim - 09-21-2010
Sarfrazzzzzzzzzz idher udher her topic main ja k bol rahay hooooooo yahan aooooooo and meray sawal ka jawab doooooooooooooo
Ciapk buddy i have a feeling that u were used to have another id on this forum before this id of ciapk
m i right to think so?
- Sarfaraz Khan - 09-21-2010
bhai eman se ap se dar lagnai laga hai ab O..
- ciapk - 09-21-2010
No dear, not was, i am currently using 3 -)but for different chapters same for accounting and tax for corporate and this for general normally. -)
- WARDAH - 09-21-2010
ciapk.......hainnnnnnnn tum to bry chupy rustum nikly.
author ny mujhy mukhatib ya dawat to ni di is topic mai bolny ki.but hum b hum hain "aisy hi to partner ni bn gae" )
khair according to me....myself....i always try to be simple,easy n sincere with any body chahy relative ho friend ya office coligue ya koi bhi raah chlta i mean sbko aik hi laathi sy hankti hon.hehehee phir gr wo understanding ho n kuch khamian ya khobian mairi jaisi to further communication friendly krti hon or gr tbiat na mily to khud hi passy ho jati hon ya dhiry dhiry usko khudy lina lga daiti hon ) .... simple
- Sarfaraz Khan - 09-22-2010
yar warda maire taraf se b kuch boldo na $..maire to eman se tangain kanp rahe hain $..
- WARDAH - 09-22-2010
kio ghbratay ho mairy akhroot bhai.ajao shabash.ziada raub mai anay ki zrurat ni hai.....or koi jo mrzi boly tumko kia?hain? tumko pta hai na k tum kaisy ho.bolny do jo bolta hai.apni baat puri kro.....shair bn shair maira bhai chl akhroot na bn.hehehehe
- Kasim - 09-22-2010
chal bhi shair(sarfraz) abb tu teri khala(i mean behna) manoo cat(wardah) nay bhi tujhay aashirwaad day diyeah hay
so iss terha bol jaisay murda kafan phar k bolta hay
- Sarfaraz Khan - 09-22-2010
jagedaraaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaan ...[(!][(!]
O waderannnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn....[^][^]
O sulatna de abaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa ...[(!]
main to bas ye khe na cha raha tha k ..[p]
- Kasim - 09-22-2010
tu yeah kehtay tumhari tangain kiyouin kanp rahi thiiiiiiiiiiiii?
apni un ko inhi alfaaaz say tu nahi bulatay kia?
- Sarfaraz Khan - 09-22-2010
yar actually.. i my self found me with dual personality .. in actual life m not same. .. i m quit different , )..ab tafseel main kia bataon , maira demaq jitna gussai main garam rahta hai us ko thanda kar nai k liye main thora bohat maskara pan karta rahta hon..ya phir chup rahta hon...takai kise se batameze na kar bheton..)..
maira shoro se he ye style hai naturally k main jab b kise organization main ya kise forum man ya kise Institute whatever place jata honn..to khamosihi ki sath logon ko judge karta hon..or aesa ban jata hon k log muj ko samjh he na sakain...had ye k apnai ap ko es level tak lai jata hon k every buddy feel comfortable to talk with me.. phir jab un logon se ache dost ho jate hai then later they discover my quit different.. or aj tak jo log muj se actual main miltai hain wo shok rah jatai hain )...
maire bai inteha dost hain, har mind ka banda maire sath adjust kar lai ta hai )..
2004 main main nai orkut join kia tha ..wahan 'Mani & Asfar' k nam ki community start ki....wo es wat karachi ki begest communities main se hai orkut p..jo log orkut use kar tai hain wo jantai hain..i left orkut , but wahan be inteha dost banai al around the world ..).. or ab tak muj s contact main hain, on cell, FBook..
ab etnai arse bad socha koi aesa forum dhund lon jahan akai apni andar k insan ko thanda kar sakon P..to yahan agaya )..
...
maire hesab se insan ko etna flexible hona chaye ko wo har taah k logon k sath adjust kar sakai..or first or second meeting main he apnai ap ko khul kar paish na kar de k deho main ye hon..thora bohat tajusus qaim rakhna chaye ...
..thora maza ata haiP..Bohat ho gaya kasimmmmmmmmmmXXX tum nai ye thek nahi kia maire sath '(....nahiiiii
- Kasim - 09-22-2010
<blockquote id="quote"><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, san" id="quote">quote<hr height="1" noshade id="quote"><i>Originally posted by Sarfaraz Khan</i>
<br />yar actually.. i my self found me with dual personality .. in actual life m not same. .. i m quit different , )..ab tafseel main kia bataon , maira demaq jitna gussai main garam rahta hai us ko thanda kar nai k liye main thora bohat maskara pan karta rahta hon..ya phir chup rahta hon...takai kise se batameze na kar bheton..)..
maira shoro se he ye style hai naturally k main jab b kise organization main ya kise forum man ya kise Institute whatever place jata honn..to khamosihi ki sath logon ko judge karta hon..or aesa ban jata hon k log muj ko samjh he na sakain...had ye k apnai ap ko es level tak lai jata hon k every buddy feel comfortable to talk with me.. phir jab un logon se ache dost ho jate hai then later they discover my quit different.. or aj tak jo log muj se actual main miltai hain wo shok rah jatai hain )...
maire bai inteha dost hain, har mind ka banda maire sath adjust kar lai ta hai )..
2004 main main nai orkut join kia tha ..wahan 'Mani & Asfar' k nam ki community start ki....wo es wat karachi ki begest communities main se hai orkut p..jo log orkut use kar tai hain wo jantai hain..i left orkut , but wahan be inteha dost banai al around the world ..).. or ab tak muj s contact main hain, on cell, FBook..
ab etnai arse bad socha koi aesa forum dhund lon jahan akai apni andar k insan ko thanda kar sakon P..to yahan agaya )..
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maire hesab se insan ko etna flexible hona chaye ko wo har taah k logon k sath adjust kar sakai..or first or second meeting main he apnai ap ko khul kar paish na kar de k deho main ye hon..thora bohat tajusus qaim rakhna chaye ...
..thora maza ata haiP..Bohat ho gaya kasimmmmmmmmmmXXX tum nai ye thek nahi kia maire sath '(....nahiiiii
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main nay kia kia hay tumharay sath?
aisay mat bolooooooooooo yar