09-01-2009, 05:16 AM
You'll have to limit your outgoing timings. I don't know what type of relationships are giving you hard time & I suppose that they are your friends as that is usually the case with most of the students.
I hope my case would help you
For me studying for professional studies meant no longer staying out with friends till late nights 12 o' clock etc but that didn't damaged my relationships. During the studies I go out for 1 or 2 hours daily & lots of hours in the weekends. You have to manage your timings. My friends understand that I have to study & that I cannot be with them all the time like before. We spend an hour or two dailly & spend lots of time together in the weekends. I participate in all the neighborhood activities like before with friends etc football, cricket, patangbazi & other things like hanging around, go out for shopping with friends, sitting just for nothing! I have made many good friends in the neighborhood after starting these studies. Then there are timings after the exams, when you have around a month of very little study or no study at all. I spend a lot of time with friends during these months & the same old routine of staying out late nights. Than there is around a month near exam with no or little lectures, although there is a lot of study pressure in those times but I used to increase my outside timings because no institute/firm means that you've extra time of 7/8 hours out of your normal routine & mind you I passed the exams too!
Secondly, I met many people in the institute & made good friends with them. We used to do group studies & I introduced those friends to my neighborhood friends. Now there is a whole new bunch of people in my group of friends. We even play cricket, football, go on treats on paper passing etc together with old & new friends. And one of my neighborhood friends started BCom, he used to join us in the group studies too. That was a lot of shughul. Many of my friends started MBA later & I was a lot of help for any friend studying accounts & finance; still am -)
Managing time was tough in the beginning & especially when I left the institute & started working with a chartered accountant firm. There were times when I used to come home after loads of hardwork & many times "dant" by the bosses & my mood was so harsh. But as I had decided not to compromise on relations so I used to come home, immediately change clothes & go out with friends & come back after an hour or two depending upon study load. Initially it was difficult, with such a bad mood but in two weeks things got on a routine & my mood started to get better & now everything is back to normal. During those days, one of my greatest achievements was that I managed to participate in the football game which as arranged in the neighborhood!
I agree that it left me with little time for rest except sleep but I didn't used to rest before either, was usually out with friends or on the computer & you've to compromise on something.
Its just a matter of managing time & bit of setting a hard routine. Its difficult in the first 2 or 3 weeks; after that everything gets on track. You've to change your priorities & place studies on first priority & relationships on second. It is not about becoming isolated or sofi & breaking relationships, its just about putting a cap on other activities, hardwork & being dedicated towards both studying & having relationships or awara gardi as my mother puts it!
If you are asking about other relationships, they can be managed too.
I hope my case would help you
For me studying for professional studies meant no longer staying out with friends till late nights 12 o' clock etc but that didn't damaged my relationships. During the studies I go out for 1 or 2 hours daily & lots of hours in the weekends. You have to manage your timings. My friends understand that I have to study & that I cannot be with them all the time like before. We spend an hour or two dailly & spend lots of time together in the weekends. I participate in all the neighborhood activities like before with friends etc football, cricket, patangbazi & other things like hanging around, go out for shopping with friends, sitting just for nothing! I have made many good friends in the neighborhood after starting these studies. Then there are timings after the exams, when you have around a month of very little study or no study at all. I spend a lot of time with friends during these months & the same old routine of staying out late nights. Than there is around a month near exam with no or little lectures, although there is a lot of study pressure in those times but I used to increase my outside timings because no institute/firm means that you've extra time of 7/8 hours out of your normal routine & mind you I passed the exams too!
Secondly, I met many people in the institute & made good friends with them. We used to do group studies & I introduced those friends to my neighborhood friends. Now there is a whole new bunch of people in my group of friends. We even play cricket, football, go on treats on paper passing etc together with old & new friends. And one of my neighborhood friends started BCom, he used to join us in the group studies too. That was a lot of shughul. Many of my friends started MBA later & I was a lot of help for any friend studying accounts & finance; still am -)
Managing time was tough in the beginning & especially when I left the institute & started working with a chartered accountant firm. There were times when I used to come home after loads of hardwork & many times "dant" by the bosses & my mood was so harsh. But as I had decided not to compromise on relations so I used to come home, immediately change clothes & go out with friends & come back after an hour or two depending upon study load. Initially it was difficult, with such a bad mood but in two weeks things got on a routine & my mood started to get better & now everything is back to normal. During those days, one of my greatest achievements was that I managed to participate in the football game which as arranged in the neighborhood!
I agree that it left me with little time for rest except sleep but I didn't used to rest before either, was usually out with friends or on the computer & you've to compromise on something.
Its just a matter of managing time & bit of setting a hard routine. Its difficult in the first 2 or 3 weeks; after that everything gets on track. You've to change your priorities & place studies on first priority & relationships on second. It is not about becoming isolated or sofi & breaking relationships, its just about putting a cap on other activities, hardwork & being dedicated towards both studying & having relationships or awara gardi as my mother puts it!
If you are asking about other relationships, they can be managed too.