03-17-2011, 09:21 PM
When I posted topic even then I had some idea that topic will not be easy one but it will be that much tough I never knew. Anyway, good or bad whatever I have on the topic, here it is.
<b>Reasons why people, who come in life and make the life worth to live, donât stay forever.</b>
Most of us donât know how to communicate. We donât consider what should be frequency, medium, tone and timing of communication as these things really matter in strengthening or weakening the relations. Face to face communication is the best way to know the other person, his/her hidden interests etc but we are always in hurry and mostly we use every other available manner to remain in touch. There were times when lack of communication was to create misunderstandings (especially when internet and mobiles were not common). But now excessive communication can also create misunderstandings, if other requirements not considered properly.
Some times our best buddy wants to be with some one else, wants to explore the world with some one else and prefers that other person on us for any reason. And after some period of time when he comes back to us for any reason, whether realizing his mistake or not and whether learning from it or not, then we must welcome the person with same passion same emotion and same companionship but for once only. Next time he does same mistake heâs out of our life for ever then.
Some people always wait for us, we are to be with them, to visit them, to contact them. They never take the initiative itâs always us who are to say hi first. But when we realize this as one sided friendship and want them to contribute equally, they just donât do so. At then we have just two options either to continue in same manner or to be apart from the person letting him to decide to continue or not to continue.
Some times one of the persons in a friendship (of opposite gender) wants more from the other, more then being just a friend or even being just a best friend and then its called one sided love, which may or may not succeed.
One sided love is one of the most beautiful things in this world. Only if we are on the cool side of the game, where we donât love the other person or we donât have to love the person but the other person, knowing or not knowing this fact, loves us, cares about us, deem we also love him/her or at least have a hope that one day that one sided love will make us love him/her. At then we though have guilt that we r doing some thing unfair but still we enjoy it cause we are being loved by, being cared with being thought about by some one and most importantly because we have the option to return it with same purity or not at all or in worst form to return it with fakeness. If we donât respond in fair manner and depart the person or he/she leaves us then after few years of this love scene coming to an end we may not even remember that how much pain we have given to the other person. At then we may have no idea that life will one day return to us what we have already contributed to it before, soon or later we may have to be on the other side of game.
Being straight forward is a good trait but being stupidly straight forward or being straightforward without any need always creates problems. One must know when to be diplomatic and when to be straight forward but very rare people own this attribute. Same is the case with being truthful. Some times to lie or to not to be truthful at all is better option then to speak a truth. Some times silence is the most effective reply back but we really donât know when to remain silent. On the contrary some times our silence confirms whatever negative other person says about us but we remain silent then, which does let other person to the final conclusion about us in light of his initial perception.
One should always be balanced first of all within him/her self and then towards others. One should always take good care of his own space and other oneâs space, not cross limits drawn by others as well as not to let others cross their limits. Very first time some one cross his limits is the best time to make such person realize what in fact his limits are, what we expect from him, what is accepted from him and how he is to act and react to us. Otherwise person will get used to of the relaxation we gave him in initial stages and later on he will take it as his right.
Some times other person feels comfortable with us, he/she shareâs with us and we take it as the person trust us and we expect to be trusted in every matter then. But later on when the person donât want to share some thing we mind it as if we are not trusted.
<b>Some times we our self have issues at our side due to which people leave us or due to which we may leave others like </b>
Some times we commit with others too early without giving a proper thought of their personalities, their limitations, their requirements to live life and their compatibility with our own selves and later on when the other person depends on us and we feel difficulty to walk with the person, we just forget our promises and leave him/her alone.
we may expect too much from others which he/she cant do at all for us, which may be against the nature of the person being expected for, which if the other person requires from us will not be fair at all in our own view or which if fulfilled by the other person, only for our sake, will destroy his/her personality and his /her right to remain him/her self.
We may consider that we know the person well and as per our perceptions we can imagine how that person may be in future to us. And we take our perception as final.
Some times we donât want to be lied by others, regardless the fact that we ourselves lie to others, regardless the fact that every one has some thing which they donât want to share. We just forget that every thing is not to tell every body and some things are not to tell any body.
Some times we go for uncomplicated options e.g what most of us do when the person we canât live without is same the person we canât live with. We just leave the person, choosing the easy option. Or if we continue with the person then we continue just for the time being, knowing that later on we are to leave the person also knowing that it will end on pain only but we continue for short terms. As this companionship goes on in intervals, so it not continues association. For short terms it may be best time of life but in long run itâs the worst one.
Some times we know that other person is lying to us but we let him lie, donât share what we feel, we donât clear things when itâs best time to do so and/or we donât even quarrel when we should or for what we should. We just accumulate things to make the mess later on. Reason may be simple that we may donât know how to express, how to expect, and how to love. Kissi ko apna banana ya phir sirf kissi ka ban jana bhi her kissi k buss main hota hay or shaid naseeb main bhi nahi.
Some times we look for exceptional care and love from others, forgetting that
Not every one can read our eyes.
Not every one can see tears that never drop.
Not every one can feel what we feel and how we feel.
Not every one can listen what we say between the lines.
Not every one can find out the change in our tune and its reason.
Not every one can understand that what we say or what we do may be totally opposite from what we want to say or want to do.
We are worst when we donât make our selvesâ simple, judgeable and predictable. We should always remember that
Not every one can understand what we ask him/her to do may not be what we want him her to do (as we may be observing the other person then).
(All those people who are considered mysterious own this thing)
Some times we repeat same mistakes with same or different persons. We may try to overcome these mistakes but they happen again and again reason may be simple they may be part of our nature. And nature canât be changed easily and may not be at all however we should try to reduce tendencies of our built in faults.
<b>Every relation has its value, importance and strengths at a given set of time which may not remain the same in some other time. So we should know when and how to share, express, love and be friendly with others. </b>
There was a dialogue in movie named English Patient, âIn memories love lives foreverâ but in fact in memories love and friendships both live forever.
But as life is name of moving forward therefore we should move forward leaving the past behind with open heart for people who are to come in our lives and also for the people who have gone from our lives due to their mistakes or oursâ and we should be committed to ourselves to not to repeat the same mistakes again or to not to let the others do same mistakes again.
I believe that there are only two things one should know to do any thing superbly, letâs say to spend a victorious life, either to know how to spend life in a perfect manner or to know how to mess it. Some where deep inside us we do have answer of every question related to our own selves we just need to find them out and remove the reasons. I myself personally lack in all doâs I wrote above and do posses all donâts mentioned above so I know why people with whom I have spent fabulous time of my life are still not with me, just need to remove the reasons.
[b]To all such persons who are no more in our lives [b/]
Use kehna ya duna hay
yahan har mor pe
aesay bahot se log milte hain
joe ander tak utarty hain
abad tak sath rehne ki
ekhatyay dard sahnay ki
hamesha baat kertay hain
Use kehna ya duna hay
Yahan her shaks matlab ki
hadon tak sath chalta hay
johni mosam badalta hay
muhabbat k sabhi daway
sabhi qasmain sabhi waday
achanak tot jatay hain
Use kehna ya duna hay
yahan har mor pe apni
sada ankhain khuli rakhna
Yahan har morr pe apni,
Sada aankhain khuli rakhna,
Koi kitna bhi acha lagay,
Koi kitna bhi sacha lagay,
Magar aeitbar mat karna,
May God enable us to see things, events and people as they in fact are and not as we want to see them or as they want us to see them. (Ameen)
Take care
Regards
<b>Reasons why people, who come in life and make the life worth to live, donât stay forever.</b>
Most of us donât know how to communicate. We donât consider what should be frequency, medium, tone and timing of communication as these things really matter in strengthening or weakening the relations. Face to face communication is the best way to know the other person, his/her hidden interests etc but we are always in hurry and mostly we use every other available manner to remain in touch. There were times when lack of communication was to create misunderstandings (especially when internet and mobiles were not common). But now excessive communication can also create misunderstandings, if other requirements not considered properly.
Some times our best buddy wants to be with some one else, wants to explore the world with some one else and prefers that other person on us for any reason. And after some period of time when he comes back to us for any reason, whether realizing his mistake or not and whether learning from it or not, then we must welcome the person with same passion same emotion and same companionship but for once only. Next time he does same mistake heâs out of our life for ever then.
Some people always wait for us, we are to be with them, to visit them, to contact them. They never take the initiative itâs always us who are to say hi first. But when we realize this as one sided friendship and want them to contribute equally, they just donât do so. At then we have just two options either to continue in same manner or to be apart from the person letting him to decide to continue or not to continue.
Some times one of the persons in a friendship (of opposite gender) wants more from the other, more then being just a friend or even being just a best friend and then its called one sided love, which may or may not succeed.
One sided love is one of the most beautiful things in this world. Only if we are on the cool side of the game, where we donât love the other person or we donât have to love the person but the other person, knowing or not knowing this fact, loves us, cares about us, deem we also love him/her or at least have a hope that one day that one sided love will make us love him/her. At then we though have guilt that we r doing some thing unfair but still we enjoy it cause we are being loved by, being cared with being thought about by some one and most importantly because we have the option to return it with same purity or not at all or in worst form to return it with fakeness. If we donât respond in fair manner and depart the person or he/she leaves us then after few years of this love scene coming to an end we may not even remember that how much pain we have given to the other person. At then we may have no idea that life will one day return to us what we have already contributed to it before, soon or later we may have to be on the other side of game.
Being straight forward is a good trait but being stupidly straight forward or being straightforward without any need always creates problems. One must know when to be diplomatic and when to be straight forward but very rare people own this attribute. Same is the case with being truthful. Some times to lie or to not to be truthful at all is better option then to speak a truth. Some times silence is the most effective reply back but we really donât know when to remain silent. On the contrary some times our silence confirms whatever negative other person says about us but we remain silent then, which does let other person to the final conclusion about us in light of his initial perception.
One should always be balanced first of all within him/her self and then towards others. One should always take good care of his own space and other oneâs space, not cross limits drawn by others as well as not to let others cross their limits. Very first time some one cross his limits is the best time to make such person realize what in fact his limits are, what we expect from him, what is accepted from him and how he is to act and react to us. Otherwise person will get used to of the relaxation we gave him in initial stages and later on he will take it as his right.
Some times other person feels comfortable with us, he/she shareâs with us and we take it as the person trust us and we expect to be trusted in every matter then. But later on when the person donât want to share some thing we mind it as if we are not trusted.
<b>Some times we our self have issues at our side due to which people leave us or due to which we may leave others like </b>
Some times we commit with others too early without giving a proper thought of their personalities, their limitations, their requirements to live life and their compatibility with our own selves and later on when the other person depends on us and we feel difficulty to walk with the person, we just forget our promises and leave him/her alone.
we may expect too much from others which he/she cant do at all for us, which may be against the nature of the person being expected for, which if the other person requires from us will not be fair at all in our own view or which if fulfilled by the other person, only for our sake, will destroy his/her personality and his /her right to remain him/her self.
We may consider that we know the person well and as per our perceptions we can imagine how that person may be in future to us. And we take our perception as final.
Some times we donât want to be lied by others, regardless the fact that we ourselves lie to others, regardless the fact that every one has some thing which they donât want to share. We just forget that every thing is not to tell every body and some things are not to tell any body.
Some times we go for uncomplicated options e.g what most of us do when the person we canât live without is same the person we canât live with. We just leave the person, choosing the easy option. Or if we continue with the person then we continue just for the time being, knowing that later on we are to leave the person also knowing that it will end on pain only but we continue for short terms. As this companionship goes on in intervals, so it not continues association. For short terms it may be best time of life but in long run itâs the worst one.
Some times we know that other person is lying to us but we let him lie, donât share what we feel, we donât clear things when itâs best time to do so and/or we donât even quarrel when we should or for what we should. We just accumulate things to make the mess later on. Reason may be simple that we may donât know how to express, how to expect, and how to love. Kissi ko apna banana ya phir sirf kissi ka ban jana bhi her kissi k buss main hota hay or shaid naseeb main bhi nahi.
Some times we look for exceptional care and love from others, forgetting that
Not every one can read our eyes.
Not every one can see tears that never drop.
Not every one can feel what we feel and how we feel.
Not every one can listen what we say between the lines.
Not every one can find out the change in our tune and its reason.
Not every one can understand that what we say or what we do may be totally opposite from what we want to say or want to do.
We are worst when we donât make our selvesâ simple, judgeable and predictable. We should always remember that
Not every one can understand what we ask him/her to do may not be what we want him her to do (as we may be observing the other person then).
(All those people who are considered mysterious own this thing)
Some times we repeat same mistakes with same or different persons. We may try to overcome these mistakes but they happen again and again reason may be simple they may be part of our nature. And nature canât be changed easily and may not be at all however we should try to reduce tendencies of our built in faults.
<b>Every relation has its value, importance and strengths at a given set of time which may not remain the same in some other time. So we should know when and how to share, express, love and be friendly with others. </b>
There was a dialogue in movie named English Patient, âIn memories love lives foreverâ but in fact in memories love and friendships both live forever.
But as life is name of moving forward therefore we should move forward leaving the past behind with open heart for people who are to come in our lives and also for the people who have gone from our lives due to their mistakes or oursâ and we should be committed to ourselves to not to repeat the same mistakes again or to not to let the others do same mistakes again.
I believe that there are only two things one should know to do any thing superbly, letâs say to spend a victorious life, either to know how to spend life in a perfect manner or to know how to mess it. Some where deep inside us we do have answer of every question related to our own selves we just need to find them out and remove the reasons. I myself personally lack in all doâs I wrote above and do posses all donâts mentioned above so I know why people with whom I have spent fabulous time of my life are still not with me, just need to remove the reasons.
[b]To all such persons who are no more in our lives [b/]
Use kehna ya duna hay
yahan har mor pe
aesay bahot se log milte hain
joe ander tak utarty hain
abad tak sath rehne ki
ekhatyay dard sahnay ki
hamesha baat kertay hain
Use kehna ya duna hay
Yahan her shaks matlab ki
hadon tak sath chalta hay
johni mosam badalta hay
muhabbat k sabhi daway
sabhi qasmain sabhi waday
achanak tot jatay hain
Use kehna ya duna hay
yahan har mor pe apni
sada ankhain khuli rakhna
Yahan har morr pe apni,
Sada aankhain khuli rakhna,
Koi kitna bhi acha lagay,
Koi kitna bhi sacha lagay,
Magar aeitbar mat karna,
May God enable us to see things, events and people as they in fact are and not as we want to see them or as they want us to see them. (Ameen)
Take care
Regards