Personal question...

ali zeeshan · 02-01-2005, 04:39 PM

<BLOCKQUOTE id=quote>quote<hr height=1 noshade id=quote>Quote by BOB
Is it possible to have a single partner your whole life? <hr height=1 noshade id=quote></BLOCKQUOTE id=quote>
Of course. You hear about it all the time. It just may not be possible for you and your wife
<BLOCKQUOTE id=quote>quote<hr height=1 noshade id=quote>Is it right? <hr height=1 noshade id=quote></BLOCKQUOTE id=quote>
Right for who, you, your wife (maybe not from the sounds of it), your parents, her parents, your children, her children, your community?

I don't know the answers to these questions. Different circumstances call for different measures.
<BLOCKQUOTE id=quote>quote<hr height=1 noshade id=quote> Are we humans built for it? Is unfaithfulness something we should just expect in a relationship? <hr height=1 noshade id=quote></BLOCKQUOTE id=quote>
This is obvious but loyalty, bonding, personality and sexual appetite does vary across people. Some couples should not enter into a monogamous relationship.
<BLOCKQUOTE id=quote>quote<hr height=1 noshade id=quote> What about open relationships? (We tried it, and failed) Has anyone else tried it? Made it work? Are humans supposed to sleep around?<hr height=1 noshade id=quote></BLOCKQUOTE id=quote>
Only been married once. A somewhat similar story. My wife wanted to have a "friend" among other things; I was not willing to accommodate her. I just wish I had known this before I had married her. Anyway we were on good terms for awhile and after 0.5 years I now realize that she was an awful person. I have no idea why I wanted to marry her in the first place. I'm not saying that your wife is the same, just relating a bit of my story.
<BLOCKQUOTE id=quote>quote<hr height=1 noshade id=quote>I left today because she wont give the other guy up as a "friend". Friend my arse. I'm hoping I'm doing the right thing. I can't stay... <hr height=1 noshade id=quote></BLOCKQUOTE id=quote>
Only time will tell.
<BLOCKQUOTE id=quote>quote<hr height=1 noshade id=quote>Do all relationships go this way in the end? Are there people out there who can genuinely be faithful their whole lives? <hr height=1 noshade id=quote></BLOCKQUOTE id=quote>

There certainly are people that remain married their whole lives, but I don't know about faithful for their entire lives. I know of several couples like that. I think the trick is to remain married for so long that whatever the differences or passions they have either worn down or don't matter anymore and the force of habit takes over.

If you and your wife are game and of an experimental nature there are a few things that you might want to look into. I have heard of new techniques of assessing the longevity of marriage that is over 80% accurate in predicting if the couple will divorce within five years. Before you go to all the trouble of divorcing or trying to patch it up with your wife you might give it a try to see what they say. I have a brother that is going through a similar experience as well but he had married and divorced his x four times. It could have saved him a boatload of money and trouble if he figured out what was going to happen to his marriage the first time he divorced. There are also so-called compatibility tests that measure your personality on several dimensions. eHarmony has one online that you can take for free. What would be interesting is for you and your wife to take the test and see if it would match you up. Who knows you might just find someone that you would be more than willing to leave your wife for.

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Edited by - ali zeeshan on Feb 01 2005 114011 AM