Adjustment after marriage.....................

[Kasim]

To elaborate the topic to some extent I wish to add few questions of my own in main topic

Is it fair for a male expecting a female to change her self completely to great extent only for being accepted with in his family only because he loves/likes her and want her to be his life partner?

Or should a male accept a lady as she is without requiring her any amendments in herself? Not an easy task for a male I think so.

What will be and should be reaction of the lady upon this expectation of adjustment by her hubby? Normally it is said it’s the lady who has to change herself according to her in laws’ and husband’s expectations after the marriage.

Would it be better for both the parties’ (future hubby and wife) to discuss and have some sort of agreement in this regard before the marriage? So later on they do know what other party is expecting/ not expecting from her/him.
And so that later on lady may not complaint k abb main nay aisa kia ker dia? Tum her waqt mijh pay gussa kiyoun kertay rehtay hoooo blaah blaah

Or

One may not marry with some one (at all) whom he knows if not changed after the marriage will cause problems for him, his family, her and her family too as nature is not easy to be altered.


i have posted the topic but still have many more relevent questions to ask and also to put some clearity in my point of view , anyway will ask later if required then.

so u people comment now
<b>you may consider it my personal issue so plz contribute well</b>

regards