07-24-2003, 06:22 PM
Hi everybody
If we all are in agreement on the fact that our examination papers are designed to encourage rattafication, then why only blame poor girls for using the most obvious route? It is not their doing that the papers were made in that way.
Yes, i will agree with the point about women finding it difficult to travel to clients workplace in far off locations. Actually the reason behind it is again our so-called "moral and cultural values". Somwhere in the back of our warped, pathetic minds we assume that woman who travel a lot without any male accomplice (read mian, bhai aur abba ji) is a not a decent woman. Since this type of thinking has been embedded in our social psyche, we all (and that also includes the womenfolk) assume that it is difficult for women to travel alone to far-off places. Many women think of themselves as capable of travelling alone and even are ready to do it, but fear that if they do it on a regular basis, it might create some image issues for them.
Sorry, i don't buy into this shabby logic of putting the whole blame on the womenfolk. Islam puts an equal blame on the men who watch women with leery eyes. They are asked to lower their gaze whenever they see or talk to a woman (even if they are conservatively dressed, let alone liberally!). If our males do not have self-control, the main problem lies with them. The funniest thing is that our top designers include men who design these dresses in the first place. Height of hypocricy!!
Another most interesting thing i've personally observed is that i've seen these same ppl who love to ogle our women, when they go to europe and meet and talk to a much more 'liberally-dressed' gori woman, keep their eyes down or at something other than that female! Shows how much confidence our 'ghar ke sher', our 'stallions' have. lol
Yaaro.... whats our problem? Why do we keep playing this 'blame the dame' game? <img src=icon_smile.gif border=0 align=middle> It started out with rattafication, then it became something about females lacking the will power, mental toughness, lack of IQ etc, then it came to something about women's lack of 'travelling abilities', then about their attire. Ufff, we sure hate our womenfolk, dont we?!! Itni ziada khaamiyan kyun talaash karte hein hum log apni khawateen mein? Why do we love to talk this much about the negative things? Could this be because of our own male insecurities?
We should leave the poor things alone, because if not, we arent being too different from the MMA ppl, who seem to have a major grudge against everything called female! <img src=icon_smile_tongue.gif border=0 align=middle>. Instead we should give credit where its due and talk about their positive things rather than always look at the negative aspects. We have already made lives quite diffcult for them, lets not make them even worse!
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Arrrgh... it sure's gonna be mighty rough sailin' today ... mates!
If we all are in agreement on the fact that our examination papers are designed to encourage rattafication, then why only blame poor girls for using the most obvious route? It is not their doing that the papers were made in that way.
Yes, i will agree with the point about women finding it difficult to travel to clients workplace in far off locations. Actually the reason behind it is again our so-called "moral and cultural values". Somwhere in the back of our warped, pathetic minds we assume that woman who travel a lot without any male accomplice (read mian, bhai aur abba ji) is a not a decent woman. Since this type of thinking has been embedded in our social psyche, we all (and that also includes the womenfolk) assume that it is difficult for women to travel alone to far-off places. Many women think of themselves as capable of travelling alone and even are ready to do it, but fear that if they do it on a regular basis, it might create some image issues for them.
Sorry, i don't buy into this shabby logic of putting the whole blame on the womenfolk. Islam puts an equal blame on the men who watch women with leery eyes. They are asked to lower their gaze whenever they see or talk to a woman (even if they are conservatively dressed, let alone liberally!). If our males do not have self-control, the main problem lies with them. The funniest thing is that our top designers include men who design these dresses in the first place. Height of hypocricy!!
Another most interesting thing i've personally observed is that i've seen these same ppl who love to ogle our women, when they go to europe and meet and talk to a much more 'liberally-dressed' gori woman, keep their eyes down or at something other than that female! Shows how much confidence our 'ghar ke sher', our 'stallions' have. lol
Yaaro.... whats our problem? Why do we keep playing this 'blame the dame' game? <img src=icon_smile.gif border=0 align=middle> It started out with rattafication, then it became something about females lacking the will power, mental toughness, lack of IQ etc, then it came to something about women's lack of 'travelling abilities', then about their attire. Ufff, we sure hate our womenfolk, dont we?!! Itni ziada khaamiyan kyun talaash karte hein hum log apni khawateen mein? Why do we love to talk this much about the negative things? Could this be because of our own male insecurities?
We should leave the poor things alone, because if not, we arent being too different from the MMA ppl, who seem to have a major grudge against everything called female! <img src=icon_smile_tongue.gif border=0 align=middle>. Instead we should give credit where its due and talk about their positive things rather than always look at the negative aspects. We have already made lives quite diffcult for them, lets not make them even worse!
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Arrrgh... it sure's gonna be mighty rough sailin' today ... mates!
